Is it anxiety about the same issues that keeps you up at night?
That’s how it used to be for me—over and over again.
I’d lie in bed twisting and turning over the things I hadn’t done, feeling haunted by the gap between who I was and who I wanted to be. Procrastination, indecision, good intentions followed by inaction.
It wasn’t a lack of desire to grow. It was the painful sense of being stuck in old patterns I couldn’t seem to break.
I analysed, planned, new-years-resolutioned, talked about how now the time had come for change, but trying to take control of the problem like never worked.
When thinking harder isn’t the answer
The turning point came when I met one of my beloved mentors who I now have worked with for many years, who (in a matter of fact way) works with the body and the senses to create confidence and clarity.
I understood my body holds an expanded intelligence, and I stopped treating my mind as the only tool for change.
That meant learning to notice what was happening in my body, not just in my thoughts. Becoming aware of the subtle signals—tightness, resistance, fatigue, restlessness—that were trying to tell me something before my mind turned them into stories.
What I’ve seen in myself and my clients is this: Sustainable change doesn’t come from pushing harder. It comes from listening more deeply.
"We cannot solve problems at the same thinking we used when we created them". Einstein
A Practical Starting Point
Here’s something to try the next time you feel stuck or caught in a loop of overthinking:
Pause what you’re doing
Interrupt the momentum. It doesn't have to take long—30 seconds can shift a lot.
Close your eyes, connect to your heart
Take three slow soft breaths in and out of your heart.
Notice your body
Where is there tension, tightness, or heaviness?
What’s happening with your breath—shallow, held, rushed, relaxed?
Are there sensations in your chest, stomach, jaw, or shoulders?
Ask yourself, without needing an answer right away
What am I feeling right now that doesn’t need to be explained or solved?
If this tension could speak, what might it say?
Is there something I’m trying not to feel?
What part of me is trying to get my attention right now?
What do I need—not to fix this—but to be with it differently?
Just listen
No pressure to act. No story to spin. Just a moment of honest attention.
Often, this kind of presence opens more clarity than mental effort ever could.
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